Hadith on Gender: Two types of effeminate men, sinful and not sinful

Umm Salamah reported: An effeminate man was with her and the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, in the house. He said to the brother of Umm Salamah, “O Abdullah ibn Abi Umayyah, if Allah opens up Al-Ta’if tomorrow, I will show you the daughter of Ghaylan. She has four rolls of belly fat on the front and eight on the back.” The Prophet heard him say this and he said, “Do not allow these men to enter your homes freely.

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2180

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “The scholars said effeminate men are two types. First, one who was created that way and he is not responsible for his behavior resembling women, their appearance, their speech, and their movements. Rather, Allah created him upon his disposition, so this is not blameworthy for him, nor a fault, nor a sin, nor is he punished. He has the excuse of not being able to control that. For this reason, the Prophet (ṣ) did not condemn him at first when he entered the homes of women, nor his behavior as it was originally his disposition. Indeed, he condemned his behavior after his deliberate imitation of women was made known to him, and he did not condemn his description as an effeminate man in itself… Second, an effeminate man whose disposition is not like that. Rather, he is responsible for his behavior resembling women, their movements, their appearance, their speech, and mimicking their presentation. This is blameworthy as has come in the authentic traditions cursing him… As for the first type, he is not cursed.”

Source: Sharḥ al-Nawawī ‘alá Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2180

عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ أَنَّ مُخَنَّثًا كَانَ عِنْدَهَا وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي الْبَيْتِ فَقَالَ لِأَخِي أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ يَا عَبْدَ اللَّهِ بْنَ أَبِي أُمَيَّةَ إِنْ فَتَحَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكُمْ الطَّائِفَ غَدًا فَإِنِّي أَدُلُّكَ عَلَى بِنْتِ غَيْلَانَ فَإِنَّهَا تُقْبِلُ بِأَرْبَعٍ وَتُدْبِرُ بِثَمَانٍ قَالَ فَسَمِعَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ لَا يَدْخُلْ هَؤُلَاءِ عَلَيْكُمْ

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قال النووي قَالَ الْعُلَمَاءُ الْمُخَنَّثُ ضَرْبَانِ أَحَدُهُمَا مِنْ خُلِقَ كَذَلِكَ وَلَمْ يَتَكَلَّفِ التَّخَلُّقَ بِأَخْلَاقِ النِّسَاءِ وَزِيِّهِنَّ وَكَلَامِهِنَّ وَحَرَكَاتِهِنَّ بَلْ هُوَ خِلْقَةٌ خَلَقَهُ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهَا فَهَذَا لَا ذَمَّ عَلَيْهِ وَلَا عَتَبَ وَلَا إِثْمَ وَلَا عُقُوبَةَ لِأَنَّهُ مَعْذُورٌ لَا صُنْعَ لَهُ فِي ذَلِكَ وَلِهَذَا لَمْ يُنْكِرِ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَوَّلًا دُخُولَهُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَلَا خَلْقَهُ الَّذِي هُوَ عَلَيْهِ حِينَ كَانَ مِنْ أَصْلِ خِلْقَتِهِ وَإِنَّمَا أَنْكَرَ عَلَيْهِ بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ مَعْرِفَتَهُ لِأَوْصَافِ النِّسَاءِ وَلَمْ يُنْكِرْ صِفَتَهُ وَكَوْنَهُ مُخَنَّثًا … الضَّرْبُ الثَّانِي مِنَ الْمُخَنَّثِ هُوَ مَنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ لَهُ ذَلِكَ خِلْقَةً بَلْ يَتَكَلَّفُ أَخْلَاقَ النِّسَاءِ وَحَرَكَاتِهِنَّ وَهَيْئَاتِهِنَّ وَكَلَامَهُنَّ وَيَتَزَيَّا بِزِيِّهِنَّ فَهَذَا هُوَ الْمَذْمُومُ الَّذِي جَاءَ فِي الْأَحَادِيثِ الصَّحِيحَةِ لَعْنُهُ … وَأَمَّا الضَّرْبُ الْأَوَّلُ فَلَيْسَ بِمَلْعُونٍ

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