Abu Darda on Marriage: Husband and wife should try to please each other

January 21, 2018

Ibrahim ibn Adham reported: Abu Darda said to his wife Umm Darda, may Allah be pleased with both of them, “If I become angry, then try to please me. If you become angry, then I will try to please you. Were we not to act this way, how quickly would we be separated!”

Source: Rawḍat al-‘Uqalā’ 41

عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنِ أَدْهَمَ قَالَ قَالَ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ لأُمِّ الدَّرْدَاءِ رضي الله عنهما إِذَا غَضِبْتُ فَرَضِّينِي وَإِذَا غَضِبْتِ رَضَّيْتُكِ فَمَتَى مَا لَمْ نَكُنْ هَكَذَا فَمَا أَسْرَعَ مَا نَفتَرِقُ

41 روضة العقلاء لابن حبان