Hadith on Marriage: Rights are at the intersection of duties in marriage

Uqbah ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The most worthy of conditions to fulfill (in marriage) are those that permit intimacy.”

Umar said, “Verily, rights are at the intersection of conditions. You will have what you accepted as conditions.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2572, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1418

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

An-Nawawi said, “Ash-Shafi’ee and most of the scholars said this is interpreted to mean conditions that do not nullify the requirements of the marriage contract. Rather, they are among its requirements and purposes, such as stipulating the condition of living with them in a good manner, spending on them, clothing them, and providing residence for them in a good manner, and that he does not diminish her rights in any way.”

Source: Sharḥ al-Nawawī ‘alá Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1418

عَنْ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَحَقُّ الشُّرُوطِ أَنْ تُوفُوا بِهِ مَا اسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ بِهِ الْفُرُوجَ

وَقَالَ عُمَرُ إِنَّ مَقَاطِعَ الْحُقُوقِ عِنْدَ الشُّرُوطِ وَلَكَ مَا شَرَطْتَ

2572 صحيح البخاري كتاب الشروط باب الشروط في المهر عند عقدة النكاح

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قال النووي قَالَ الشَّافِعِيُّ وَأَكْثَرُ الْعُلَمَاءِ إِنَّ هَذَا مَحْمُولٌ عَلَى شُرُوطٍ لَا تُنَافِي مُقْتَضَى النِّكَاحِ بَلْ تَكُونُ مِنْ مُقْتَضَيَاتِهِ وَمَقَاصِدِهِ كَاشْتِرَاطِ الْعِشْرَةِ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَالْإِنْفَاقِ عَلَيْهَا وَكِسْوَتِهَا وَسُكْنَاهَا بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَأَنَّهُ لَا يُقَصِّرُ فِي شَيْءٍ مِنْ حُقُوقِهَا

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