Hadith on Manners: The Prophet is polite to a vulgar, rude man

Aisha reported: A man sought permission to enter the home of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and the Prophet said, “Admit him, for wretched is the son of a hostile clan and wretched is the man of a hostile clan.” When the man entered, the Prophet spoke to him gently. Aisha said, “O Messenger of Allah, you said what you said about him and then you spoke to him gently.” The Prophet said, “O Aisha, the worst of people in position to Allah on the Day of Resurrection are those whom people abandon or leave alone for fear of their vulgarity.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5685, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2591

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Qadi Iyad said, “Indeed, the Prophet spoke softly to him as a means of persuading him and being an example of Islam.”

Source: Sharḥ al-Nawawī ‘alá Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2591

عن عائشة أَنَّ رَجُلًا اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ ائْذَنُوا لَهُ فَلَبِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ أَوْ بِئْسَ رَجُلُ الْعَشِيرَةِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ أَلَانَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قُلْتَ لَهُ الَّذِي قُلْتَ ثُمَّ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ قَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ مَنْزِلَةً عِنْدَ اللَّهِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ وَدَعَهُ أَوْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ اتِّقَاءَ فُحْشِهِ

5685 صحيح البخاري كتاب الأدب باب لم يكن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فاحشا ولا متفحشا

2591 صحيح مسلم كتاب البر والصلة والآداب باب مداراة من يتقى فحشه

قال القاضي عياض وَإِنَّمَا أَلَانَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ تَأَلُّفًا لَهُ وَلِأَمْثَالِهِ عَلَى الْإِسْلَامِ

2591 شرح النووي على مسلم