Ibn Abbas on Marriage: Husband should not demand all his rights

Ikramah reported: Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “I do not like to invoke all of my rights over my wife due to the saying of Allah Almighty: And for men is a degree over them.” (2:228)

Abu Ja’far al-Tabari said, “What Ibn Abbas said is the degree which Allah mentioned in this verse is that a man should excuse his wife from some of her obligations, he should be lenient regarding his rights over her, and he must fulfill all of his obligations toward her.”

Source: Tafsīr al-Ṭabarī 4776

عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رضي الله عنه قَالَ مَا أُحِبُّ أَنْ أَسْتَنْظِفَ جَمِيعَ حَقِّي عَلَيْهَا لِأَنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى ذِكْرُهُ يَقُولُ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ

قَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ مَا قَالَهُ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ وَهُوَ أَنَّ الدَّرَجَةَ الَّتِي ذَكَرَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى ذِكْرُهُ فِي هَذَا الْمَوْضِعِ الصَّفْحُ مِنَ الرَّجُلِ لِامْرَأَتِهِ عَنْ بَعْضِ الْوَاجِبِ عَلَيْهَا وَإِغْضَاؤُهُ لَهَا عَنْهُ وَأَدَاءُ كُلِّ الْوَاجِبِ لَهَا عَلَيْهِ

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