Abu Darda on Sinners: Hate his sinful deeds, do not abuse him

Abu Qilaba reported: Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, passed by a man who was being beaten because of his sin and they were cursing him. Abu Darda said, “What do you think if he had fallen into a well. Would you not try to rescue him?” They said yes. Abu Darda said, “Then do not abuse your brother, and praise Allah who has protected you from sin.” They said, “Do you not hate him?” Abu Darda said, “Verily, I only hate his sinful deed, but if he leaves it then he is still my brother.”

Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā’ 793

عَنْ أَبِي قِلابَةَ أَنَّ أَبَا الدَّرْدَاءِ رضى اللَّهُ تَعَالَى عَنْهُ مَرَّ عَلَى رَجُلٍ قَدْ أَصَابَ ذَنْبًا فَكَانُوا يَسُبُّونَهُ فَقَالَ أَرَأَيْتُمْ لَوْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ فِي قَلِيبٍ أَلَمْ تَكُونُوا مُسْتَخْرِجِيهِ قَالُوا نَعَمْ قَالَ فَلا تَسُبُّوا أَخَاكُمْ وَاحْمَدُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي عَافَاكُمْ قَالُوا أَفَلا تُبْغِضُهُ قَالَ إِنَّمَا أُبْغِضُ عَمَلَهُ فَإِذَا تَرَكَهُ فَهُوَ أَخِي

793 الكتب حلية الأولياء لأبي نعيم أبو الدرداء